THE FIGHT WITH YOURSELF-Bully Within
The term Journey can evoke excitement and anticipation; however, when referring to Finding Yourself, the Journey can be daunting. When presented with the idea of putting in the work to get to know ourselves better, it might just be easier to walk away. As we all know it is not easy to walk away from ourselves. Honestly, why would you want to walk away from yourself? If you set yourself in the thought process that ,”I am always a work in progress,” this will provide your inner thoughts with grace when things don’t work out the way that you intended. I think too many people are searching for perfection in life. Just imagine if everything was perfect, how mundane and less colorful the world would be.
The big question is how can you Find Yourself and be Kind to Yourself at the same time? I will be honest, this is not an easy Journey. I do believe that it is a road that has to be traveled with insight, acceptance, care, kindness and desire. In the moments where I make mistakes or things don’t turn out as expected, is when I find the most learning to occur. These moments are where the color of your individuality get sprinkled in. Let’s be real, our inner voices can be the Bully inside of our heads. We as individuals tend to Bully ourselves a lot. It’s hard enough to deal with the external Bullies in the world, let alone our own personal Bully. It is time for you to fight the Bully that lives inside of you. You might have just let out a Big Sigh as you read that. I know fighting that internal negative voice can be quit exhausting and you might not feel like you have the energy to do this. I hear you!!!
Let me say this to you, if we are always waiting to make internal changes when you have enough energy, well then you might just never have that energy. We will never have enough energy to harness everything in our lives. But does that mean that we give up or decide not to attempt change? Your answer might be YES and that is the Bully in Your Head. Humans have an innate urge to fight back to Bullies. I want you to harness this thought process. It is time for you to have a big fight with the Bully in your head. That Bully wants you to rot, to be lost, negativity and most of all doesn’t want to see you move positively in your world. We all have this Bully no matter how much you might want to deny it.
I believe that through work and determination, we can all have a knock out fight with the Bully, we all have an Inner Rocky in all of us as well. I would like you to practice a little visualization technique.
VISUALIZATION
This is a moment to be completely honest with yourself. What is your biggest internal Bully. I will share mine with you.
My Biggest Bully inside of me, is that voice that constantly beats me up about my body. My appearance, my weight and how I am aging. This has been a constant Bully within me for years. I want you to identify your biggest Internal Bully right now.
The crowd is loud as you are in your dressing room. As you prepare for the fight of your life, you begin to envision your opponent. You are moving and bobbing around getting your body ready for the fight. In that moment you close your eyes and you look the Bully right in the eye as you create this scene in your head.
It’s time for the big fight as your trainer tells you “It’s time.” I want you to walk out of your dressing room with strength and determination. The crowd cheers as you walk out and enter the ring. The Bully is already in the ring because that Bully is always with you. Take a moment and breath in and look the Bully straight in the eye. What words do you want to fight this Bully with? In your belly you desire to have a complete knock out of the bully in round 1. Reality sets in and you know that to make true change it takes time, fight and effort. The Ref tells you to knock gloves with the Bully and the bell rings.
When I do this visualization, I love fighting that voice that is always telling me that I am fat, overweight and not as pretty as everyone around me. I also include in this thought process the focus that I place on others opinions of me. The power that I feel as I begin to fight this Bully that is deep down inside of me. I want you to decide how you are going to begin to Fight your Internal Bully, Let Hook, Right Hook, a blow to the ribs or maybe you want to hit the Bully where it really hurts, the gut. I want you to envision this fight in your head with the Big Bad Bully and how you are going to begin to cope with the negative self messages inside of you.
I am curious how many rounds are you envisioning this fight to last. My hope for you is that for some time you might go through many rounds with this Bully. These rounds are your learning curve. As time goes on finding ways to cope, be productive and lighter will lessen the time of your fighting. This visualization can be a key into you taking the Bully down. Through whatever means you chose to provide yourself with help, whether Professionally or Individually, this is the path to change. My vision for you is to see a time that this fight only lasts one round because you knocked out the Bully with just a few good swings. This represents the hard work you have put in to fight the Bully within. This is the pinnacle point where all of your hard work pays off. When the negative thoughts creep in again you will be able to fight the negative message and move on from the obsessive thought process.
See the Bully on the ground, in the ring. The Ref begins to count to 10. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. 6. 7. 8. 9. 10 as he pounds his fist on the ground. He yells “You are Down” You look up at the sky as you feel strong and proud. Your hands are in the air, in a warrior pose because you have knocked out the Bully. The Winner.
Visualization Therapy can be so profound when working on yourself. I utilize it whenever that Bully rears it’s head and tries to make me feel bad about myself. I have had many good fights with this Bully and I no longer allow them to win. I am the winner because all of the power is in my hands.
It’s time to put the power back in your hands. Find your Internal Bully and suggest a fight date. Prepare yourself for the fight and identify ways that you are going to cope with this Bully and eventually knock it out. Reading this Blog is not the end all, be all. This is only the first round with the Bully. I know you are ready for this Journey because My Friends, you are here with me today. This is your first step to fighting your Internal Bully.
I would love to hear from you on ways this visualization has helped you in the learning curve of beating the negative voice in your head. Go to the part of my site where you can leave me a message and I hope this is the beginning of a powerful journey in your life.
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ILISE
