When you hear the word Wicked what thoughts come to mind. Some words that I can think of are evil, mean, unpleasant or something that is against your morals. This is not all of the descriptions because there is a slang definition of the word wicked also. The slang words are awesome, crazy cool or unbelievably perfect. The slang is mostly used by New Englanders and the British. Have you ever heard someone say, “That is crazy wicked.” If you are a Harry Potter fan you will know that they say, “That’s wicked” throughout the movie series. Meaning that’s crazy cool and exciting. I have watched a lot of Harry Potter with my kids can’t you tell?
Today for this blogs purposes and my podcast Episode 61 we are going to refer to the slang for the word “Wicked.” The Holiday Season is upon us and I want you to have a Wicked Good Time! I can almost guarantee as you are reading this you have visions of all the stress and craziness that the holidays can cause in your daily life. Take a deep breath in I am going to help you get through this.
The key to surviving the holidays is being Assertive. This is the time to get your priorities straight. The best way to feel in control during this busy time is to be organized and know what is best for yourself. It’s ok to be a little selfish if it means that you can keep your sanity during the season. There is a list called the 3 C’s of Assertiveness. In my research I came upon many different versions of the 3 C’s. I picked the 3 C’s that I feel are the most realistic in the lives of my readers and listeners. Clear, Confident and Calm are the 3 C’s I will refer to. If you follow these 3 C’s when talking to others during the holidays when expressing your needs the odds are you will be successful and will it make you feel empowered. That feeling of empowerment is also the feeling of I feel Wicked or I feel crazy Wicked.
If you are asking yourself when do I know when to use the 3 C’s, let’s go through this together. Holiday meals, (Thanksgiving dinner, Hanukkah celebration or Christmas dinner) are times that can be very overwhelming if you are the host. Assertiveness and being Wicked are the skills you need to use to protect yourself regarding who you will invite, how many people you can handle and the celebration menu. Setting your boundaries with family and friends is empowering. That Wicked feeling comes into play because you know you are taking care of yourself, your needs and what you can physically and emotionally can handle. Gift buying can just put some of us over the edge. Making the big decisions of who you will buy gifts for, your budget and when to say I just can’t exchange presents this year can be a lot. When we don’t assert our needs and limitations we are the one’s who are responsible for overwhelming ourselves. Don’t you want to feel just a little Wicked about setting healthy limits for yourself. I know I feel Wicked when I support my true feelings and needs. I honestly feel powerful and strong because I was able to say no, or I can’t this year and I need to do what is best for me. I feel even more Wicked when I don’t make excuses or tell them why I can’t this year. Humans always have this guilty feeling when they say no and start to explain over and over why they can’t do certain things during the holiday season. Empower yourself and just say this is what is best for me. What about all the holiday parties you might get invited to? This is another area of great stress during “Tis the Season.” This is when you rustle up that Wicked feeling and say, “Sorry I won’t be able to make it this year.” I know we all go to parties we don’t want to because we feel obligated. It is time to turn off your obligated button inside of you and change your thought process. You graciously say, “thank you for the invite but I won’t be able to attend this year.” Oh yes, this is so Empowering and Wicked! The ultimate feeling of knowing you are putting your needs first. I hope I have started a dialogue for you that you can create your own plan on how to handle the stressors of the 2021 Holiday Season. Go out and feel a little Wicked and Empowered, it just might put a smile on your face and move you in the right direction of putting your needs first. I’M WICKED!
POSITIVE THOUGHTS CREATE POSITIVE ENERGY
GO OUT AND EXPLORE ALL OF THE WIDE OPEN SPACES IN YOUR WORLD
PLEASE VISIT MY PODCAST WHERE I WILL GIVE YOU CREATIVE WAYS ON BEING A LITTLE WICKED AND EMPOWERED
CIAO
Ilise
