We look to others for love but too truly feel and receive love you must learn to love yourself first. We all have heard this but do we actually practice this form of self-love? There are times in our lives where we feel weak and unable to love ourselves. Most of the time this evolves out of a low self-esteem. There are many reasons why most people exhibit a low self-esteem. Many times it’s because of the Inner Bully inside their head. That voice internally that is always beating you up and repeating negative mantras within. Most of us are programmed to have negative self-talk and have that bully voice that puts us down inside our heads.
I am sure you all can relate. “You are so stupid.” “You are fat.” “You can’t do anything right.” “You are not smart enough.” “Why did you do that?” “Why can’t I be stronger?” “I am useless.” For many it comes natural to self-deprecate. We all have that bully voice inside our heads. The question is why and how do we change this thought process? Negative Self-talk can originate from anxiety, depression or it can be a learned behavior. There are usually deep roots as to why we bully ourselves. If you find that your negative self-talk is weighing on you, please seek out professional help to work through where this negativity comes from. For many of us this can be a learned behavior. So let’s work on ways that we can turn that inner bully into an inner cheerleader.
A mantra is a phrase or some words that you repeat to yourself so that you can internalize the thought. Positive Self-Mantras are utilized as a way to cope and to negate any negative self-talk that we may subject ourselves to. Our brain is having a constant war with inside itself when we are struggling and we must consciously work on incorporating Positive Mantras to fight off the negative thoughts. Some examples of this are, “You are strong.” “You are brave.” “I can handle this.” “I will work on being more organized.”I can accomplish my goals.” “I can handle anything that comes my way.” and “I can overcome anxiety.” These are some great examples of how we can start to create Positive Self-Talk and squash that Internal Bully. Bullies like to see others fail, hurt and struggle. Coping in today’s world can be very complicated and we must use our Positive Mantra’s everyday to create an Internal Balance.
Internal Balance sounds so beautiful doesn’t it? I can almost feel it inside myself as I am typing away. My daily Internal Mantra is, “I have the power inside myself to conquer.” This Mantra did not come easy to me. Through struggles, anxiety and adversity this mantra evolved into a daily routine in my life. Routines can be great for us. These Routines create peace, predictability, a coping mechanism and a way to gain control over our lives and situations we are confronted with.
I hope I have you thinking about what your Daily Positive Mantra will be. Don’t just throw something out there. Put some time and thought into the words so that they will have the greatest impact on squashing that Internal Bully inside your head. The world has Bullies everywhere but the one and most strongest we can fight is the one internally.
Sometimes, words are hard to find. If you find yourself struggling to find the right words as a Positive Mantra then use photos. I really said that. Use a picture as a coping mechanism to handle the Internal Bully. One of my favorite pictures to think of to stop a Negative Thought Process is a picture of sunflowers. I see the picture of dozens of sunflowers in a field towering high. Yellow petals and a deep brown center. I can almost see them swaying in the wind and their fresh uplifting aroma. Ahhh, well I am sure you can see how this visualization is used as a coping skill to increase Self-Love and conquering our Internal Negative Thoughts. I bet for some of you I was able to take you to a relaxing place just thinking about my daisy picture.
Join me by listening to Season 3: Episode 80 of Wide Open Spaces with Ilise. I will discuss more in-depth what makes us foster our Inner Bullies and how you can find the Internal Strength to fight back.
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CIAO
Ilise
